7 Family Habits to Strengthen Relationships

10 01 2012

The book called Parenting Beyond Your Capacity has a chapter discussing family rhythms. Every family has a rhythm, but not all rhythms are deliberate and strategic. Not all families have a plan, but every family settles into patterns, habits and rhythms that shape their lives together. I want to have a family that doesn’t drift off into eternity, but one which paces itself with planned persistence. Part of the plan includes training and specific habits to guide our growth and journey together. The following is not a complete list, but just some standouts that the Bourque family tries to hold to:

  1. Breakfast together including a Scripture verse to memorize.
    1. We use Foundation Verses on my iPhone (from Fighter Verses adapted for kids). You can also access it from the web.
  2. Prayer before school.
    1. Just a short, simple prayer to send everyone off with a reminder that God goes with us throughout the day.
  3. Walk to school, word of encouragement.
    1. I walk my oldest to school on purpose.
    2. I enjoy the relational moments, the fun conversations, jumping over the cracks and making footprints in the snow!
    3. I try to think of ways to encourage her for the day ahead.
      1. Exs: What will you talk about with your friends today? How can you give your best? When someone is mean to you, how can you respond like Jesus?
  4. Play with kids after work
    1. Love this part of the day.
    2. I get to act like a kid, be a horse to ride, wrestle with my boy to show off his tough side, watch my girl dress pretty and tell her how lovely she is.
    3. See You Have What is Takes by John Eldredge for using life as a way to help answer your kids’ primary questions. Read the rest of this entry »

How to Get Kids Ready

29 04 2010

(Reposted from an earlier Facebook note).

Getting your kids ready may sound like an easy thing, but sometimes it can get downright stressful! Here are some ideas from the Bourque family to make your transition times more enjoyable and actually a meaningful part of daily life! (While this article targets parents, there are important principles for children’s ministry volunteers as well). I’ll get the difficult point out of the way first and then get into some fun stuff.

1. Getting your kids ready may take some SACRIFICE.

When you became a parent, you gave away some of your personal freedoms…you now have someone else to take care of. When you refuse to sacrifice or be a little flexible in this, tempers can begin to flair. So embrace the fact that you must give up some of your personal interests for the sake of family peace and unity! “Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too” (Philippians 2:4). Read the rest of this entry »

Fostering Success

22 04 2010

Athletes train. Pianists practice. Firefighters do drills. What about Christians? “Train yourself for Godliness” (1 Timothy 4:7).

Consider what you want to improve on. Do you need to foster the habit of prayer or Bible study? (My goal is to read for a few minutes each morning then go for a 10 minute walk to pray, meditate on what I read and get mentally prepared for the day). How about resisting the urge to gossip? Tithing? There is something God is pressing on your heart that needs changing.

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