Dads, Consider the Impact of Availability – Desiring God

20 10 2011

 

 

 

Dads, Consider the Impact of Availability – Desiring God.

Dads, don’t miss this article!





Kids Matter!

28 09 2011

This post is a brief review of the book by George Barna called, “Transforming Children into Spiritual Champions.”

I am glad that there is this book called, “Transforming Children into Spiritual Champions,” that is going around the world with it’s perspective that children’s ministry matters. Of course, being in children’s ministry I’m already convinced of that fact, but the statistics certainly show that what is done with “the least of these” has huge impacts on the worldview of our cultures. The stats bring to our attention that much that is shaped in the minds of children will harden into adulthood. Like a soft clay pot that is easily formed and altered, but when aged and left to dry it hardens into a permanent shape. So much of who we are is determined from infancy! Therefore so much of how we live as adults should also be zoned in on how we intentionally and strategically shape and lead children.

I disagree with the exclusivity of this book being only about American children! At the very least, I take offence that Canadians weren’t included in this study! (HA!) Kidding aside, one challenge with a book like George Barna’s is it’s basis on statistics. While statistics are very important to general understandings, they can also be limiting. In other words, God can bring new life regardless of any statistics and regardless of any age. A set of statistics could be one way at one period of history, but then a spiritual awakening can happen that throws the stats out the window! I’m not completely disagreeing with the premise of the book, because statistics are still revealing and helpful. I’m also not saying that George Barna is trying to limit God! I’m just adding some clarification to the overall thrust of the book that is based on people’s responses to a survey, which can be very subjective and apt to change from year to year. How do you think stats should be used in ministry?

I think the most pivotal and foundational part of the book is the chapter called, “Why Kids Matter.” The Biblical basis for this chapter should move anyone to a greater appreciation for how God views children. Beyond mere appreciation, the Biblical texts on children should fill believers with passion for the weakest and most innocent among us. This passion should drive people to make a difference in the lives of children. The section regarding the ultimate battlefront (p.50ff) urges us to put children as the top priority in our battle against the Evil One. Once the clay pot is hardened, it cannot be re-softened. (This is not to say that adults cannot be saved or changed as God can do the impossible). Therefore, the church must put much emphasis and resources into the training up of children to form a Biblical worldview. Doing this effectively would prevent many of the social problems and family breakdowns that occur, as well as, giving as many as possible the opportunity to receive Jesus.

The ministry setting in which I am a part of could be infused with a new passion if these thoughts and ideas could begin to take hold. Myself, volunteers and parents are easily discouraged and can become indifferent in a moment. Greater awareness of the immense value God places on children will alone motivate greater ministry. Strategies, plans, programs, ideas are all important, but if there is no fuel to energize and sustain what’s happening, it’s very easy to dry up or worse, give up. I believe there is much God-honouring fuel (as well as practical suggestions) from the content of this book that can multiply fruit in many lives.





Behaviour Modification or Biblical Correction?

30 07 2011

I’ve been thinking about my use of consequences as I parent and lead children. Consequences are a powerful motivator for making right choices and avoiding the wrong. So they are needed for guiding children.

However, there is a word of caution for relying solely on consequences. Relying on them is merely behaviour modification. This is actually damaging because simply changing behaviour is self-reliant and exterior. As parents who believe in and follow Jesus we know that we cannot save ourselves or grow our character apart from his redeeming and sanctifying work. We are not self-reliant, but Christ-reliant. And the way Christ works is by transforming the heart not putting a vain polish on our appearance.

We reap what we sow. If you plant a fern you will grow a fern. Likewise, if you sow anger you will reap anger. So as parents we can help children recognize the implications of their choices with appropriate consequences.

Tedd and Margy Tripp have written a book called Instructing a Child’s Heart. In it, I came across a quote that provides a solid distinction between the worldly approach to parenting called behaviour modification and the Godly approach they call biblical correction. They write,

“We do not depend on consequences to alter behavior. We want to train the heart of the child. In behavior modification, consequences are the means of shaping or manipulating behavior. In biblical correction and discipline, consequences are a means of demonstrating, in a sensory way, the importance of the spiritual consequences that are accruing in relationship to God, to others and to ourselves.”

Therefore, communication is vital for parenting. We can’t slap down consequences and expect children to turn out right. We have to do the hard work of explaining what Christ wants to accomplish in our hearts. The consequences are a way to help make that conversation happen.

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Discussing God With A 3-Year Old « JeremyNortonBlog.com

13 07 2011

 

Thanks for these thoughts Jeremy!

 

 

 

Discussing God With A 3-Year Old « JeremyNortonBlog.com.





Mark Driscoll | Jesus and Children

27 05 2011


Mars Hill Church | Luke’s Gospel: Investigating the Man Who Is God | Jesus and Children.

I’ve included a link here to some great preaching on how Jesus views children. Pastor Mark Driscoll mentions some good resources at the top and then opens up the Word from Luke 18:15-17.

How do you view children? Are they to be discarded? Are they merely an inconvenience? Are they a joy? Are they a nuisance? Do they have great value? Should they be ignored? Are they less important than what’s on your schedule? Can you embrace and welcome them? Your answers to these questions are critical to your faith and the faith of those little ones looking up to you.

Take a moment to consider your position. Then turn your heart to reflect Jesus’ heart for children.





Courageous – In Theaters September 30

19 05 2011


Courageous – In Theaters September 30.

Looks like this upcoming movie will move fathers in the right direction. Click the link for more info.





Helping Kids Deal with Anger

18 05 2011

Biblical Parenting: Some Tips for Helping Kids Deal with Anger.

If you or your kids are working through how to work the emotion of anger, you will want to check out this blog link. Short, simple and very practical, but also very Biblical. Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller specialize in parenting from a Biblical standpoint.





Be Adventurous « Be The Dad Today

14 05 2011

Be Adventurous « Be The Dad Today.

Go to Be the Dad Today to learn how to be an adventurous dad leading kids on a new adventure every day!





FREE Parenting Resource

3 05 2011

Gospel-Centered Parenting

The free 30 page resource (linked above) is a helpful expansion to my previous post. It includes thoughts on pragmatic parenting, rules vs. attitudes, keeping it simple, key character traits and what to do when you think you’ve messed up or it’s too late.





What every parent should know. What every child should do

3 05 2011

What every parent should know. What every child should do – 4.0 | The Counseling Solutions Group, Inc..

The link above will lead you to simplifying your parenting focus, while keeping it centred on the Gospel. May your children flourish with love for God and others.








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